Let me just throw a couple of words out there and you tell me if any on them ring a bell. Ready?
Daddymoon, man shower, dadchelor parties – do any of these sound familiar to you? No? Me either. Apparently it’s a new trend catching on with daddy-to-be’s all over. It’s like some new rite of passage some men feel they need to go through to cope with becoming a new father. While mom is perfecting her waddle between trips to the bathroom, they’re plotting the final pub crawl. Who knew?
The daddy kick it fest sometimes includes the diaper keg where men bring diapers in exchange for beer. Uh huh. All variations of these (say goodbye to life as you know it) celebrations seem to involve drinking, gambling and sporting events to some extent. The rule is that these “celebrations” must be done at least one month before mom is set to pop. Another rule is that the soon-to-be dad doesn’t have to pay for a drink all day. Wow, isn’t that sweet? Yes ladies, this is their last hurrah before real responsibility kicks in. What did yours look like?
Parties for the mom are all about baby. Parties for dads have nothing to do with the bambino. I mean, except for acknowledging that the baby is coming and doing the lovely diaper – beer exchange thing. From what I’ve read there’s no sharing of parenting advice. There are not collective sighs while looking at onesies, no stuffed bears, no cakes in the shape of a stork, no measuring of the ever-expanding belly. None of that. Nope. It really is just a sendoff from the guys. It’s the last time to cut loose with the boys. Great for them.
When it’s women, the celebrations are a little bit different. There will be no all nighters at the club, no long nights at the casino and no pub crawls until the wee hours for obvious reasons. There is no real cut loose send off as we enter motherhood. It’s just not that kind of party on our side of the fence. We do the baby shower thing and rack up loot for the little one. Then it’s all about prepping for the big push. Thinking back, it would have been nice to have some kind of send off into the world of mommy land or even a welcome to motherhood shindig.
I find this “daddymoon” concept really interesting because I hadn’t given much thought to doing something to acknowledge the point in a man’s life when he becomes a father. It’s a big deal. My husband was involved as much as possible in the pregnancy, baby stuff. If I’m being honest though, things were still all about me.
As far as new trends go, I guess we have push presents and they have this.