Don’t Even Ask

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As women, we have so many rules. It’s been said for years that you never ask a woman her age or her weight. When we become mothers there is a whole new set of rules. Where do I begin?

  • Don’t question maternity leave

I know a few people (men) who look at maternity leave as an extended paid vacation. To be clear, vacations are meant to be restful and relaxing. There is nothing restful or relaxing about engorged boobs, a sore hoo-ha and a newborn who hasn’t learned the difference between day and night. Trust us, we need every.single.day we take for maternity leave and then some.

  • Don’t ask why we’re still breastfeeding

Breastfeeding is a good thing, people. There have been some people who seem to take it to far (breastfeeding 5 year olds) but, it’s totally normal for a mom to still be nursing a 6 month old baby. I don’t know how many people said to me “you’re STILL breastfeeding” and “You know, you could stop now.” So many people were encouraging me to stop. I have no idea why. My guess is most people that encouraged me to stop, didn’t give it a go themselves. I guess they just found it odd that I was determined to nurse my son for a full year.

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12 Responses to Don’t Even Ask
  1. This Cookn' Mom
    November 9, 2011 | 7:34 am

    Oh yes! My husband still has not got it through his head that I am NOT on vacation. He gets a whole lot more rest and relaxation than me! I am up all day long. I don’t mind since I am taking care of our kids, but I do wish I didn’t have to add work back into the mix.

  2. Optimistic Mom
    November 9, 2011 | 7:57 am

    TRUE! TRUE! TRUE!
    I just don’t know what else to say, you said everything just right!

  3. PaintsandPlaydough
    November 9, 2011 | 8:15 am

    I truly feel that maternity leave here in the States is abysmal! One of my best friends who is Danish had ONE FULL YEAR maternity leave from her job after her first child. Plus, Copenhagen had some sort of program where they had lactation consultants, and nurses that would come to your house and help you with your newborn! 6 or 8 weeks is not enough!

  4. kita
    November 9, 2011 | 9:02 am

    Well you just about said it all. I try not to question people on what they do because they are not me and I am not them. 6 weeks is not enough though for maternity leave.

  5. Anna
    November 9, 2011 | 11:48 am

    I also must agree that meternity less than a year is insane! Come on, if you make a mother leave her child ans go to work I am sure that her efficacy would be 0..So what’s the point??

  6. Barbara
    November 9, 2011 | 12:42 pm

    My husband was in shock when he found out that I got over 16 weeks of maternity leave and he thought it was so cool that I got to just “sit at home” until the day he “sat at home” with me and realized how exhausting it was to have a newborn 24/7.

  7. Urissa
    November 10, 2011 | 4:06 am

    I agree with everything! My sister told me so.. 🙂

  8. KalleyC
    November 10, 2011 | 5:26 am

    You nailed everything on the head. Maternity leave is not a vacation, it’s work! It really needs to be longer, by the time it’s over, you barely recovered enough to get up off the floor without feeling like you’re doing the impossible.

  9. Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell
    November 10, 2011 | 8:25 am

    People are particularly judgy when it comes to how long people breastfeed!

  10. Baby Shopaholic
    November 10, 2011 | 9:00 am

    I agree with you! Why are people always saying something crazy!

  11. Denise
    November 10, 2011 | 6:26 pm

    i swear, once you become a mom, the questions never stop… not just with maternity leave, breast feeding… people question your decisions, give advice that you never asked for. but,we learn to tune it out!

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