There have been so many instances where I’ve had to re-group and re-focus to get back to me. Being a mom I need to recharge myself on a regular basis. I have to take time and remember that I’m more than my son’s mom. Though, that’s hard because being his mom is awesome! It’s still necessary to take time for me and to do things just for me.
I had this same shift of focus as a newlywed. In the very beginning of my marriage, I was so focused on my husband and what we were beginning to build that I forgot about my hobbies and likes – for a while. Yes, I was all caught up in love and became “that girl”. My friends didn’t want to ask me to do things at times because I was the newlywed. I didn’t want to to a whole lot for the same reason. We got past that, because It didn’t take long for me to realize that all of that stuff I used to do is all a part of the woman he fell in love with. So I started on my journey of “getting back to me”. There were many things in my mind that would get me back on track to being me again.
Some things that made the list were:
• Lunches with my girls
We made time to hang out and meet for lunch or hit the mall
• Finding events to attend for networking or entertainment
This was a big one for me. I used to be so into going to events where I could network with people in my field and just put myself out there. I was also a fan of going to events happening around the city. It’s L.A. for goodness sake. This city has so much to offer.
• Taking classes
I found online classes to improve my writing and I found other classes that just sounded like fun and signed up!
• Exploring my interests and finding new ones
I got into pilates and started going to a studio. I started a fashion and beauty blog. I was just busy!
I started to get back to myself and our relationship is probably even better for it. We aren’t newlyweds anymore but having our own interests outside of each other certainly helps to grow us individually and as a couple. In the same way, doing things that are just for me has helped me to be a happier and better mother to my son. When my little girl arrives, I know that things will be a bit more hectic and taking that time isn’t going to be easy. I’m hopeful that I’ll still be able to make it happen, even if it’s a “every now and then” deal. At the end of the day, it’s so important to get back to the things that make you… you.
What do you do to re-charge and get back to being you?