Recently, I was watching an episode of Bethenny about mean moms and cliques in mommyhood. From the beginning, I felt like I couldn’t relate. Then, I started thinking. I have had some interesting interactions with other moms. Beyond the whole breast vs bottle, cloth vs disposable stuff. I have noticed more of a difference in moms since I’ve been at home. I get my son to and from school and meet all the other moms in the process.
Some are warm, others are – interesting. At times, I feel like they are trying to figure me out. It could be all in my head. There’s one mom though who really strikes me as odd. Sometimes she drops off, other times it’s her husband. I met her husband first. He was UBER friendly. I think he connected with me immediately because we have two of the very few chocolate kids in the school. He was talking about getting together for park play dates, exchanging information…all of it. He was telling me excitedly, “just wait until you meet my wife.” He had told me all of their history. Issues with pregnancies and how many more children they may have, and on and on. Since he was SO friendly, I thought his wife would be awesome!
Well, ahem, she may be awesome… to other people. When I saw her dropping off their daughter, I introduced myself and said that I had met her husband at drop off the other day. I thought I was being friendly. She was… cold. Very COLD. It was as if I said something that was all kinds of inappropriate. She wasn’t even pleasant. Didn’t even try to be. From then on, I just keep it cordial and keep it moving. The thing is, she’s barely cordial. I found it so odd. Her husband is like her polar opposite.
Shortly after I met his wife, he came up to me all excited asking if I’d met her. I’m like, uh, yeah. I kinda smiled but quickly changed the subject. He is still really friendly and always speaks. He remember my kids names and loves t make small talk with them. Their daughter always speaks as well. That wife though. She can not be bothered. She really stands out too. All of the other women there are at the very least cordial. Even the ones that seem like they are trying to figure me out are talking to me in the process.
Honestly, when I think about it, she doesn’t talk to ANYBODY. I don’t know that she’s even said so much as “hi” to the teacher. Like I said, she really stands out. Everyone else at least makes small talk outside of the classroom. I can’t be mad at her. She’s being true to who she is. It’s just so bizarre because her husband made her seem so different. I expected her to be more like him. Maybe he’s extra outgoing and she’s extra shy?