From the moment my daughter was born it was true love. My son was mesmerized by his baby sister. I remember telling him, “She’s your baby sister all by yourself.” He was so proud that she’s “his” baby sister. Immediately, I could see that he would be the best big brother. For the most part, he has been.
He is very protective of her. He tells me when he thinks she’s hungry. He tells me what she’s “saying”. When they both went to the doctor for shots, with tears in his eyes, he was ready to fight when the nurse gave his sister a shot that made her cry. He shouted, “that hurts her”. He promised that next time, he would tell them not to hurt her. The look on his face said he meant it.
These days, I think all the extra attention she gets is getting to him. You know, since we pick her up, feed her and do everything for her. That’s becoming a problem. I’m seeing the jealousy creep up. It took 8 months, but it’s obvious now.
There are requests to be picked up. There is WAY too much whining and the random tantrums!!! Every now and then he decides a noise she’s making is her laughing at him. He shoots her a look and says, “it’s not funny!” Or we’ll give him something (milk, berries, anything) and he’ll say, “this is for me – just for me”, while looking at her.
We’ve been talking to him about being nice to his baby sister. He is for the most part. The kid just isn’t a fan of sharing EVERYthing with her. I get that. I’m thankful that most days he’s totally in love with her. She’s still the first face he looks for in the morning and his favorite play mate. I’m convinced this jealousy shall pass. Let’s hope it’s soon.