My mother and I have always been really close. Being that it was just she and I in at home we developed this super close bond. As a little girl, I always remember feeling at ease whenever I saw my Mom. I used to always lay on her lap and she’d rub my back or my hair. Just feeling the warmth of my mom’s hands brought me instant comfort. Everything in my little world could be going wrong but when I saw my mom I just knew she’d somehow fix it – no matter what “it” was. As an adult, I still feel a certain calm when I talk to my mom. Even though we are thousands of miles apart our bond is still super strong.
When I look at my own kids I notice how they respond to me. I can’t help but to compare how they are with me to how I was with my mom. From the minute my daughter was born we had a bond. She was crying and immediately calmed to my gentle rock and my voice. My son only needs a rub on his back from me to know that whatever he’s nervous or scared about is going to be OK. As corny as it sounds, I feel so honored that I’m able to bring the same security to my kids that my mom gave me.
I don’t know why that hit me extra hard this weekend. There was no one special thing that happened or any light bulb moments. Just in spending time with my babies I notice how all they need is the reassurance from mommy and daddy that all is good in their little world. Once they get that boost from us, they truly think they can do anything.
I remember my son working through his fear last weekend. He was climbing a new structure that was a little tricky. He was scared and thought about quitting. I was his cheerleader and assured him he could do it. Once he completed it, the pride on his face just made my life! He immediately wanted me to tell his dad and his grandma how great he’d done. He couldn’t run to his dad fast enough to share his news. I was overjoyed to see his confidence grow in those small moments. My voice, my confidence in him got him through it. That makes me want to cry. When I think of how much these two little people look to me and my husband to guide them, to protect them and to tell them they can do anything. That’s big! This mommy thing is something else y’all. Rest assured that I don’t take it for granted.