Is Two the Magic Number?

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**Don’t forget tomorrow I’m spilling the beans on a huge family secret!!!

Every now and then I think I want another baby.  I think it’s because this first year of my daughters life has flown by. It could be because my biological clock it a ticking time bomb at this point. If we want another baby we’d better decide soon. My husband could go either way it seems. Even though, he’s already decided the next baby is a boy and his name is Noah. Um, for more?

My son wants me to have another baby too. He wants a brother. Randomly, the other day, he said that when I grow his brother in my tummy I can give him his toys. Again, OK.  The thing is, I’m not sure I’d want to stop at three if we had another. I think I’d like to have a fourth too. I guess you could blame the Libra in me for wanting things even. I dunno. I like for things to be evenly distributed. Even kids.

I think a part of me wants the big family since I’m an only child. It would be a lot to figure out but it could be a great thing too. I’ve heard there are many benefits to having a large family. Even with its perks, I seem to be stuck on the not so perky stuff. With more than two, here’s what  I worry about :


  • I don’t want anyone to feel shorted, forgotten or left out. I already feel like I’m trying rally hard to give my two “equal” attention.  Adding another in the mix would be the perfect storm for crazy.  Maybe.


  • I worry about finances too. We live in California. It’ the land of cha-ching!  Everything is expensive around these parts. Kids cost enough on their own but living here each new baby is like taking out a new mortgage. I heard a number a while ago about how much kids cost. I forget what that number is but I’d say double it for Californians.

House Hunters

  • We’d have to think about a bigger house. We’ve already been talking about it but we’d have to stop talking and start doing with another bambino. We already feel pretty crowded in our three bedroom, adding another child would be a tight squeeze, for sure.

The Ride

  • Then there’s the car. I was already on the edge about a minivan. Another baby would just push me right on over the edge into minivan land. Have I just talked myself out of another baby? Pretty convincing case, huh? Maybe two is the magic number. Hmmm… maybe baby fever will pass. Soon.

Do you have a magic number when it comes to kids? Have you reached your magic number?

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25 Responses to Is Two the Magic Number?
  1. Andrea
    October 29, 2013 | 7:03 am

    I would really love to have one more child. I only have one now. While I don’t usually attach deadlines to many life events, I am pretty set on February (not sure why I choose Feb) being my deadline to get pregnant. I’m 30, my daughter is almost 4, and I don’t want my children to be that far apart in age. Four year is pushing it for me. Prayerfully our desires will line up with that of the Lord. So Lord if you hear me I’d like to get pregnant in a couple weeks. Amen. P.S. Your daughter is BEAUTIFUL!

    • Cam
      November 2, 2013 | 9:45 pm

      I’ll be praying with you, girl. 🙂

  2. Tamara
    October 29, 2013 | 7:08 am

    I think I’m like you – I like even numbers. Three kids? Might as well have four?
    I have two and I’m pretty happy with that for now. One boy and one girl. I think if finances changed, maybe three could happen. I’m still afraid of being outnumbered and running out of car/house space but people seem to work that out.
    Like your son, my daughter very specifically wants to choose her other sibling. She wants a girl. I try to tell her we can’t promise that..

  3. Reginia {}
    October 29, 2013 | 8:27 am

    I have 0 now and I want 1. I’m in my late 30s so I’m high risk now, so one is good. We can’t start trying until I’m off the heart meds. 🙁 {insert sad face}

    • Cam
      November 2, 2013 | 9:47 pm

      Let’s get you back on track first, girlie! Once you’re well, I’ll be looking forward to that baby announcement! 🙂

  4. Jenni
    October 29, 2013 | 10:04 am

    I think 1 is my magic number. Then, I’ll see a pregnant woman in a store or a newborn and think, 2 is my magic number. Then, I think about the cost of daycare, 2am feedings, potty training and think 1 is my magic number! I’m giving us a couple more years to see. If nothing is cooking, I’m shutting the factory for good and getting my tubes tied.

    • Cam
      November 2, 2013 | 9:48 pm

      I think about all of that when I think about growing our family. Those sleepless nights were a beast!

  5. Krissy
    October 29, 2013 | 10:06 am

    for me it’s 2 and im giving myself a few more years before that is out of the question. I’d love for jas to have a sibling some day.

  6. Tamonie
    October 29, 2013 | 10:37 am

    Go girl, get you a 3 or 4 pack!
    I’ll say, three wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be. I would have loved 2 and 2, but now that Alija is 1, all I’m working on is getting my Fine and Sexy body back. So, the factory is out of business, but we are all for adoption when the time is right.
    Have fun deciding!

  7. Lucy
    October 29, 2013 | 12:54 pm

    Children should be the minority…… Hahaha. This is from me and your mother. Ur mom says she’s trying to have a life now. Not babysitting. Lmbo. I luv ur mama. She said, u just want ur parents to move to California. Maybe u should just ask nicely Instead.

    • Cam
      November 2, 2013 | 9:51 pm

      They need to quit playing and make that move!

  8. KalleyC
    October 29, 2013 | 2:02 pm

    I have baby fever. My little guy is turning 1 in a few days and I cannot see me stopping at him. It’s like something in me is not over. I NEED to have another one. We have to do some serious planning to get it done.

  9. catherine gacad
    October 29, 2013 | 3:26 pm

    Do you think you were deprived being an only child? Given our old age and the fact that we’ve had fertility problems and two miscarriages, it looks like we may have no choice, but very curious to hear what only children have to say!

    • Cam
      November 2, 2013 | 10:00 pm

      Hmm… being an only child was really cool growing up. I grew up with cousin’s who were like my sisters. It was great having them around. Because they are my cousins, I still got all of the one on one attention from my mom when they were gone home. As an adult, being an only child isn’t my favorite thing. Mostly I just worry about my parents aging an how I’ll deal with that as an only. Great thing is I’m married, so I’ve got a partner! 🙂
      For you, I think your baby is blessed to have you as parents. After all you’ve one through, that’s one LOVED baby!!!

  10. Josh
    October 29, 2013 | 4:13 pm

    I asked my wife for four and her response was, if you provide income for four she’s ok with it. Now after having two little ones under the age of 4 I’m happy to maybe get one more… But we’ll see what the future holds.

  11. Lashawn
    October 29, 2013 | 5:15 pm

    I think one might be our magic number. I see babies and hold babies and think, I want another. But then I remember waking up in the middle if the night, breastfeeding, potty training. And then I saw how much it is for daycare. Chile…..

  12. Kita
    October 29, 2013 | 5:29 pm

    I wanted 3 until I had two then I think no can’t do it. They are expensive I have one of each if I had two boys or maybe two girls I would try for the opposite sex but I am good. I will just hold somebody baby and then give it back.

  13. Joyce@MommyTalkShow
    October 29, 2013 | 5:53 pm

    I’m conflicted. I say we’re “one and done” but then I see a sweet baby and it brings it all back.
    If I knew for sure that I could have another boy, I’d be set.

  14. Quiana
    October 30, 2013 | 8:15 am

    Oh wow she’s SO big (and adorable!). I feel ya on the even # of kids. It’s either 2 or 4 for me. Odd #s don’t work out so well IMO after observing friends/family with odd #s of siblings. Plus there are so many things in life that are more accommodating for even numbered groups. About the cost thing I have strong opinions about that especially living in NYC, but growing up in Ohio in a family with 4 kids and my husband’s family growing up in NYC also with 4 kids and neither of our families were rich by any means; I think it has more to do with lifestyle choices. In general (and in America especially!) we make our lives way more expensive than they need to be.

  15. Jane
    November 3, 2013 | 4:57 am

    Wow! That is a tough one. But thank you for sharing.
    As a mum of a 2.5 year old, I identify with the predicament you are in. I always thought that I wanted 4(!) and yet right now, both my husband and I are happy with the one. While there are pluses and minuses to both sides, I think you have to follow what’s in your heart. Would you regret it if you didn’t have a second? It’s a tough call!
    But I’m sure you will make the right decision for your family 🙂

  16. Jai
    November 4, 2013 | 9:52 am

    It’s so hard! I feel like my second’s first year just flew by too. We are done with two but it’s a little bittersweet. I’m not sure I can handle more than two! It’s so easy right now for us to tackle a child or not a big deal if once of us leaves the other parent with the two kids.

  17. K. Elizabeth @ YUMMommy
    November 5, 2013 | 12:19 pm

    I don’t think there’s a magic number for us. Financially, can afford one more baby. However, I come from a big family and my husband comes from a foster home and I think if money were no object we’d definitely like to have a big family too.

  18. Nellie @ Brooklyn Active Mama
    November 13, 2013 | 7:57 am

    I want one more, I totally know that 50% of it is the only child syndrome and the other 50% is feeling a baby grow inside of me one more time.

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