If a couple you knew wanted to have a baby would you help? If that couple had tried over and over again and had miscarried several times – would you think about being a surrogate?
That’s the story in an article I read on Mom Finds. That article got me thinking. I hadn’t really given much thought before to surrogacy in my own life. I’d seen stories of people who’d offered their bodies to carry a child for someone and I thought that was awesome. I still do. I don’t know if I could do it though. I tend to think that I’d want to keep the baby. If I was carrying a child, no matter how much I wanted to help someone else, I think the bond I was creating with the baby would compel me to want to keep the baby. I asked this question on Facebook and Twitter and those who responded said they would do it, or at the very least consider it.
Is it a different situation if you’re doing it for a couple you don’t know? In the article on Mom Finds, the author mentioned that she would consider doing it for a couple she’s friends with. She’s been watching them struggle and though they haven’t asked, if they did, she’d carry a child for them. It has to be hard to see people who you think would be awesome parents struggle with having a baby. Especially when there are so many people who honestly suck at being parents and seem to think hate the role of mommy and daddy. To make matters worse, the couple she mentions have no problem getting pregnant – but then lose the baby. I would imagine that if I were their friends I’d want to help in some way too. It’s got to be heartbreaking to sit on the sidelines and watch them go through this. I just don’t know that I could help in the way of surrogacy.
What do you think? Could you be a surrogate for someone? Would it make a difference if it was someone you knew or a stranger?